*Da Brat and Jesseca “Judy” Dupart are opening a new chapter with the release of their memoir “The Way Love Goes,” arriving in February during both Black History Month and LGBT+ History Month. The book blends personal storytelling with relationship guidance, offering insight into their marriage beyond what fans have seen on social media or television. Part memoir and part relationship guide, the book reflects their lived experiences with honesty, humor, and vulnerability.
Judy explained that the timing felt intentional and overdue. “I feel like even though we’ve done reality TV and even though we’re kind of transparent, I felt like if we could get something quantified in a book that talks about stuff that people may not know, that you didn’t see on reality TV or that we haven’t put on social media, but also there’s actionable steps in there about relationships and the best ways to fight fair or intimacy stuff,” she said. She added that writing the book felt like “one of the things we needed to check off our list on life.”
One of the defining elements of “The Way Love Goes” is its dual perspective, with both women sharing their own voices and memories. Da Brat emphasized why that mattered to them as a couple. “I think it’s important that both of us be heard and it just wasn’t from one of us. We’re in a relationship together,” she said.
Da Brat also acknowledged that their viewpoints do not always align, even now. “I think it’s important for you to hear her side, my side, and we don’t always agree. So, still to this day, some of those stories, we still don’t agree on,” she shared. According to Brat, the book goes deeper than their WeTV series “Brat Loves Judy,” exploring moments and conflicts that were never fully addressed on camera.
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That depth led to moments of tension during the writing process itself. Judy revealed that they initially tried being interviewed together before realizing that approach wasn’t working. “Because she sees things one way when it comes to stuff that happened in our relationship. I see things one way,” Judy said, adding that revisiting old issues forced them to relive moments they thought were resolved.
Brat agreed that differing perspectives are simply part of life. “It’s just funny that we have two different takes, but that’s just normal. That is life and that is okay,” she said. Those differences are reflected in chapters that revisit how they met, their early miscommunications, and unresolved disagreements.
One particularly challenging topic for Brat involved accusations of emotional distance early in their relationship. “For me, it was probably when she said I ghosted her because she keeps on saying I ghosted her,” the hip-hop star said. The conversation itself highlighted the push and pull that shaped their bond, underscoring the book’s commitment to presenting both sides honestly.
Judy pointed to intimacy as the hardest subject for her to tackle, largely because of Brat’s initial discomfort. “The crazy part is, I thought it was going to be like pulling teeth,” Judy said of her wife. Over time, she noted, Brat became more open, leading to what Judy described as Brat opening “Pandora’s box.”
Beyond storytelling, both women hope readers walk away with practical lessons. “I hope that they take away that life is not always peaches and cream,” Brat said, emphasizing patience, communication, and compromise. She added, “I hope they take away that communication is very important.”
Judy echoed that message while expanding it to all couples, regardless of background or identity. “That they’re not as different as they think they are in a good way,” she said, stressing that relationship struggles are universal. For Judy, the focus is on “fighting fair, talking through it, trying to understand your person.”
The memoir also reflects on the added pressures of fame, something Judy says can amplify everyday disagreements. “The public eye puts a different level of scrutiny in a relationship, whether you want it to or not,” she explained. According to Judy, outside voices can intensify private issues, making boundaries even more important.
Parenthood has brought a new layer to their relationship since welcoming their son, True Legend Harris-Dupart, in July 2023. “I think it’s made us better people overall,” Brat said, describing how becoming parents strengthened their bond. She shared that learning from Judy’s experience as a mother has helped her grow into the role.
When asked which chapter readers should start with, Judy pointed to conflict resolution. “I say fight fair… fighting fair because everybody’s always going to have a disagreement,” she said. The chapter, like the book itself, centers on listening to understand rather than responding to win.
With a combined social media following of more than 7.4 million, Da Brat and Judy continue to connect with audiences across music, beauty, lifestyle, and LGBTQIA+ communities. “The Way Love Goes” adds another dimension to their story, capturing love, disagreement, growth, and faith in their own words.
Watch our conversation with Da Brat and Judy below.
*This interview has been edited for length and clarity.
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