*On Friday, Feb. 28, it’s Fri-Yay and the ladies of “The Real” discuss how single women are always assumed to be looking for a relationship. Co-host Amanda Seales reminds women that they need to be fulfilled in themselves before they can be fulfilled in a relationship, and co-host Loni Love remembers that people were never satisfied with her single status and always wanted to see her with someone.
Loni also relates a story of being recognized – sort of – in a comedy club recently, and co-host Jeannie Mai shares that sometimes she’s just too tired to correct people. On the other hand, Amanda has been known to deny her own identity when asked!
And actress Storm Reid visits to discuss her new movie, The Invisible Man. She reveals that she finally got to meet Rhianna at the recent NAACP Image Awards, and bonds with Amanda over being a “sneakerhead!”
A Woman Does Not Need A Relationship In Order To Be Validated By Herself Or Anyone Else
Amanda Seales: It’s not just about being happy to be by yourself. It’s about being happy with who you are.
Adrienne Houghton: Yes.
Loni Love: That’s what I mean.
[The Real audience applauds]
Amanda: Your issues. Your triggers. Like, what people consider flaws, being able to take acceptance of that. Because all of those things are what make you feel secure and whole, so that if someone comes in, you don’t require them to fill you up in a way that shakes you off your core. I speak –
Adrienne: I just don’t –
Amanda: I speak from personal experience. This is the process I’m literally going through right now.
[EDIT]
Adrienne: I just hate the stigma that women that are single that are looking for a relationship are unhappy. You understand where I’m coming from? Like, I think people are like, “Well, gosh, she needs to be happy with herself –” There are people that are genuinely happy with who they are and still are seeking for something else!
[The Real audience applauds]
Adrienne: I don’t want you to feel bad about yourself because you want –
Loni: I was on this – I was on this panel for five seasons – single. And the thing is that everybody equates being with somebody to attractiveness, or how somebody looks, or… maybe they crazy on the inside. For five seasons, I had to convince people that I was ok being by myself. And then it was so funny because I told you – once James came here – I didn’t – it wasn’t about me introducing him. He could be in the background all day long. But people wanted to see me with somebody. Because in everybody’s mind, they have a feeling of, you have to be with somebody to be a woman –
Amanda: And validate.
Loni: And validate, and that’s not true! It’s so not true!
[The Real audience applauds]
Amanda: It basically says like… it basically, it somehow says like, “Oh, you’re worthy of being loved ‘cause somebody loves you.”
Loni: Exactly.
Adrienne: Or that you are not lovable if you are not in a relationship.
Loni: Exactly.
Adrienne: Like, there must be something wrong with you that no one has “chosen” you.
Loni: Exactly.
Adrienne: And that is wack and completely untrue.
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About THE REAL
THE REAL is a live daily, one-hour, two-time NAACP Image Award-winning and Emmy-nominated talk show now in its sixth season on Fox Television Stations and in national syndication (check local listings), with a rebroadcast on cable network Bounce. The bold, diverse and outspoken Emmy Award-winning hosts, Adrienne Houghton, Loni Love, Jeannie Mai, Tamera Mowry-Housley and Amanda Seales, all frankly say what women are actually thinking. Their unique perspectives are brought to life through candid conversations about their personal lives, current events, beauty, fashion and relationships (nothing is off limits). Unlike other talk shows, THE REAL hosts are admittedly a “work in progress,” and fearlessly invite viewers to reflect on their own lives and opinions. Fresh points of view, youthful energy and passion have made THE REAL a platform for multicultural women. Produced by Telepictures Productions and distributed by Warner Bros. Domestic Television Distribution, THE REAL is led by Executive Producer, Rachel Miskowiec (Good Morning America, Katie, The Tyra Banks Show, Judge Hatchett, The Ricki Lake Show) and shot in Los Angeles, California.
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