“Power” star Naturi Naughton has opened up to Essence about why she ended her engagement to her baby’s father, Ben, and feeling immense pressure to wed.
Naughton and Ben welcomed daughter Zuri in 2017, but living happily ever after together as a family just wasn’t meant to be.
“I don’t want to be married if it’s not the right marriage and the right person,” the 35-year-old actress told ESSENCE. “Pressure is really induced by living up to other people’s expectations, and instead of trying to live up to somebody else’s expectations for me, I just need to be happy.”
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The former 3LW singer said she ultimately penned a forthcoming song about the break-up titled, “Stay Too Long.”
“The song is literally about my story,” she revealed. “One of the lyrics is, ‘Three months after the baby was born, your love for me was gone. How could you flip the script on me?…Love makes you foolish and stay way too long.’ And the chorus is literally how we don’t see the signs. We don’t accept that this is not the right thing. We want to be in something so much that we stay in something that’s not good for us.”
Naughton is now focused on raising her daughter.
“God gave me a beautiful child, and her father is great and still in her life, and we’re co-parenting. That’s a blessing in itself,” she said of her ex.
The proud mother also noted that it’s her “duty” to instill an abundance of confidence in her daughter and to teach her that black is beautiful.
“When we wake up, we have a regimen,” she explained. “Once she’s dressed, we stand in front of the mirror and do these little affirmations that say, ‘Who’s that pretty girl? I’m that pretty girl!’ And I say, ‘Zuri, that’s you!’”
Naughton said that their routine is “not for vanity’s sake, it’s for affirmation” and to help Zuri develop a “confidence from within.”