Sunday, September 19, 2021

Fans Blast Steve Harvey After He Blames ‘Victim’ of Sexual Assault

Steve Harvey
*Steve Harvey and his co-host Shirley Strawberry have been accused of victim blaming after they told a young woman that she needs to stop drinking and take control of her body after she wrote in seeking their advice about a possible sexual assault.

The 23-year-old sent a letter into Harvey’s radio show earlier this month after a curious night of intercourse with her boyfriend left her worried.

“In the middle of the night, my boyfriend woke me up and told me to clean myself up. Confused, I asked him why and he told me because we just had sex. Of course, I had no knowledge of it because I passed out drunk,” the girl writes.

“The next morning, I asked what him happened the night before. He says that he came home, saw me in bed, and wanted to have sex. He said I didn’t move or talk so he thought I was just really tired even though there was a trashcan by the bed with my head halfway in it. Would you consider this a sexual assault? How can I tell him without hurting him, or scaring him. I don’t want him to think that I’m labeling him as a ‘rapist’”, she continues.

We agreed with Strawberry’s advice to the girl: ”The guidance would be for you at 23 to stop getting passed out drunk where you don’t know what’s going in your life with your body … I mean, you have to stop this immediately. You can’t do this. It was your boyfriend this time because you were at home, but what if you had passed out at the party or something. You have to think beyond this trying to blame your boyfriend,” the female co-host remarked.

This writer is not suggesting that intoxicated females are asking to be sexually assaulted, however, Shirley summed it all up with “stop getting passed out drunk where you don’t know what’s going in your life with your body.”

Why are people mad about this sound advice?

Harvey attempted to make light of situation, saying: “This is a kinda tough one for a man to answer because we’ve all done this damn near. Tried it anyway. All of us. I done actually crawled up from the foot of the bed, in an army crawl like I was going under a barb wired fence, under the sheets, trying to get to it … we’ve all tried it. It’s called the sneak-attack so I don’t really know how to answer this.”

He continued:

“Y’all live together … he woke you up to make sure you got cleaned up … he told you what he did,” added Harvey. “A person that did something that they think is really wrong is usually in denial of it,” he continued. “Did he rape you? In my estimation, no … you need to stop drinking so you can be in control of yourself, your body, your thought, your mind.”

Listen to their comments via the player below and share your thoughts about the young woman’s dilemma:

Not everyone sided with the hosts though.

Ny MaGee
Ny MaGee is a screenwriter and freelance reporter from Chicago -- currently living in Los Angeles and covering A-list entertainment for various outlets, including Emmys.com. She has worked for: Miramax, MTV & VH1, The Jim Henson Company, Hallmark Channel, Paramount Pictures, and for iconic indie film producer Roger Corman.

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10 COMMENTS

  1. This is one of the dumbest questions..First of all this wasn’t rape..Your dude came home and got some ..period. I , on the other hand was raped..wide awake..fighting back..assaulted to the point of unconsciousness .. Not by someone I lived with ..Or someone who I consensually have sex with..and cared enough to wake me up and tell me to get it together ..I was violated and I KNEW Iit..So if you live with someone that had sex with you while you were pissy drunk and blacked out and you think it was assault.. AND have to ask Steve Harvey.. Yea ..clean up ..get ur drinking under control ..because it seems you can’t hold your liquor and next time you may wake up in a strange place and be explaining this to the local precinct..(if you wake up)…and also find new boyfriend.. because apparently you don’t know or trust the person you live with ..or their intentions..

  2. I’m sorry but why does the victim never wanna take responsibility for their actions? Why does society coddle grown adult woman? No two rapes are alike and there are really victims out there. However, being a woman does not give u a pass to be reckless. We women know what to do to not place ourselves in ratchet situations. This IS NOT rape when u consider the many innocent women and children who really have traumatic experiences. Please stop giving real victims a bad name. LADIES, if we can’t handle our liquor,be sober. If she even has to question whether or not it was rape,then it probably wasn’t. How many of us have had drunk sex with our s.o. If this were the case then half of the world’s boyfriends and husbands would be in jail.

  3. I agree with Shirley / Steve Harvey.

    If you have to ask was it rape then it likely is not!!!

    It is one thing to be given a drug that renders you unconscious… likely by a stranger!

    She lives with this man and they have likely had sex like this before.

  4. They are 100% correct. It’s like spreading honey all over your body, lying down on an ant hill and thinking you won’t get stung. It would be nice if you could, but it’s not realistic. It just doesn’t make sense for anyone, man, woman, chicken, child or dog to get so drunk you don’t know who the hell you are, and expect to be taken care of by those around you. We don’t live the Land Of Oz.

  5. I think I’ve been assaulted and all I can do is write a strawberry letter??? Come on ppl set up!!! So they answered the way the writer wanted them to

  6. While an excellent point is being made for not getting drunk to the the extent of passing out, it sounds like she was in her own home where she should expect safety. At the very least this is disrespectful and selfish for her boyfriend to do this to her (even if he was “considerate” enough to inform her to clean herself up after he was done using her). How can anyone think it’s acceptable? I do love and appreciate Steve Harvey but they need to consider this before God of they think it is right behavior on the boyfriend’s part.

  7. No, I don’t think it’s rape. Maybe an inconsiderate boyfriend, but not rap. This happens, I hear women say it all the time.women say, especially after Holding Out for a while. The writer definitely needs to get her stuff together. Stop drinking like that, but at least she was at home. I definitely would not be drinking to the point of passing out. I don’t like when I’m not in control of myself.

  8. I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW WHY WOULD YOU ASK,YOU KNEW YOU WHERE DRUNK,BUT THE THING IS YOU DIDN’T FEEL HIM IN YOU,SO YOU THINK IT IS RAPE, THEY GAVE YOU GOOD ADVICE,ALSO ITS SOMEONE YOU BEEN HAVING SEX WITH SOBER,AND YOU LIVE WITH HIM YOUNG LADY PLEASE TAKE THE ADVICE.

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