*Steve Harvey and his co-host Shirley Strawberry have been accused of victim blaming after they told a young woman that she needs to stop drinking and take control of her body after she wrote in seeking their advice about a possible sexual assault.
The 23-year-old sent a letter into Harvey’s radio show earlier this month after a curious night of intercourse with her boyfriend left her worried.
“In the middle of the night, my boyfriend woke me up and told me to clean myself up. Confused, I asked him why and he told me because we just had sex. Of course, I had no knowledge of it because I passed out drunk,” the girl writes.
“The next morning, I asked what him happened the night before. He says that he came home, saw me in bed, and wanted to have sex. He said I didn’t move or talk so he thought I was just really tired even though there was a trashcan by the bed with my head halfway in it. Would you consider this a sexual assault? How can I tell him without hurting him, or scaring him. I don’t want him to think that I’m labeling him as a ‘rapist’”, she continues.
We agreed with Strawberry’s advice to the girl: ”The guidance would be for you at 23 to stop getting passed out drunk where you don’t know what’s going in your life with your body … I mean, you have to stop this immediately. You can’t do this. It was your boyfriend this time because you were at home, but what if you had passed out at the party or something. You have to think beyond this trying to blame your boyfriend,” the female co-host remarked.
This writer is not suggesting that intoxicated females are asking to be sexually assaulted, however, Shirley summed it all up with “stop getting passed out drunk where you don’t know what’s going in your life with your body.”
Why are people mad about this sound advice?
Harvey attempted to make light of situation, saying: “This is a kinda tough one for a man to answer because we’ve all done this damn near. Tried it anyway. All of us. I done actually crawled up from the foot of the bed, in an army crawl like I was going under a barb wired fence, under the sheets, trying to get to it … we’ve all tried it. It’s called the sneak-attack so I don’t really know how to answer this.”
“Y’all live together … he woke you up to make sure you got cleaned up … he told you what he did,” added Harvey. “A person that did something that they think is really wrong is usually in denial of it,” he continued. “Did he rape you? In my estimation, no … you need to stop drinking so you can be in control of yourself, your body, your thought, your mind.”
Listen to their comments via the player below and share your thoughts about the young woman’s dilemma:
Not everyone sided with the hosts though.
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