Tuesday, January 18, 2022

Ex-BET Exec Darren ‘Buttah Man’ Brin Honored for Coming Out Courageously

darren 'buttah man' brin
Darren ‘Buttah Man’ Brin

*On Saturday, former MTV and BET executive and now  comedian Darren “Buttah Man” Brin  received the “Courage Award”  at the first  Truth Awards Ceremony in Los Angeles from  Better Brothers LA.

The event was sponsored by Tony nominated actress and HIV/AIDS advocate Sheryl Lee Ralph in cooperation with the Diva Foundation.

Brin  had previously  served as the director of music and development at BET, and oversaw the music for the long-running show “106 & Park”.    Prior to BET, he worked in the music and talent department at MTV.  He also created, produced and hosted the first nationally-televised hip hop game show “Hoodfab,” that aired on MTV Jams, MTV2, Mobile and MTV.com.

After being laid off from BET recently,   Buttah Man has taken  his comic routine on  the road so that he can focus primarily  on performing comedy, which is his first love.

EUR sat down with Buttah Man by the pool at a downtown LA Live hotel hours before he was to receive the award for courage in coming out to the hip-hop culture of which he is a member.  Daren came out on the Sway morning show.    We talked about his beginnings, his journey, his coming out and reinventing.

About the reaction to his being gay:

Its interesting how people respond, I don’t lead with the fact that I am gay, but I get two responses, people will applaud or look at me like, ‘you don’t look like the gay guys I see on bravo’….

 Buttah Man gives his take on courage:

“Courage is about not living in fear, not letting fear dictate the decision making in our lives, one of the biggest sources of fear in my life was people finding out I was gay, and especially working in the industry I was working in.  I made a conscious decision that I was not going to live my life in fear, I was not going to feel like I had something to hide, or that just because I was attracted to men that that made me less than… So that was really why I made the decision because I have to live a life of truth”

What needs to happen between hip-hop and the LGBT community?

I feel like,  we are in a good place, I think a lot of strides have been made as far as people opening up  to understand that gay people listen to your music, they buy your music, we have a voice in the industry, as more people come out you will see a lot of us out here and its like you can do the homophobic rap stuff  but at the end of the day we are the ones that set the trends and are a lot of the tastemakers of the industry…

This has got to be an incredible moment for you, what do you say to the kids that don’t believe they will ever have a moment like you have right now?

I will say this, it is awesome!   It’s a blessing.   I feel like a lot of times in life just when you are about to come into your greatest hour, a whole lot of stuff gets thrown at you, a lot of times you look back on these experiences and you feel like why am I having this streak of bad luck, why does it feel like nothing is working… I have learned in the moment to flip that perception to say o.k when something difficult happens, that right now my character is being tested this is a challenge  I have to deal with this and navigate this and not necessarily go into the woe is me mentality…

 What’s next?

When I first started comedy, I thought about it like,  yeah I’ll get a TV show,  a sitcom,  Now this time around,  (I went away from it because I actually did get a TV show)   I hosted a show on MTV for 3 years on National Television.  Something that a lot of people never get to do, I actually got to live that dream.  But I missed comedy in terms of the performing, and having that voice to be able to say whatever you want to say.  So now this time  I’m in it and appreciating the technicality of it.  The art of it, how the jokes are set up, watching other comics and doing all the things that you do to be able to do this art.



  1. I Ily telling y’all… the new millionaires in america now are gays.., they have their own cable network..they have their own awards shows, scholarship programs, gay athletes award shows… owning companies, real estate, investment firms, the pink dollars (as to what its called among wall street brokers)are on wall street makin tons of money..and gays with mega loot are sought after as investment opportunities. .

    Say whatcha want to say…. But they’re moving forward as a community..I ain’t mad..this is north america.. where liberty and freedom is everything. …you don’t like the freedom this nation’s offers to citizens?…move to a homophobic nation where you have no freedoms. .where you can’t speak your mind, and if you do? That nation’s government will kill you even if they THINK you said something against their government or their nation’s morality belief system.

    BUTTA is from the US virgin islands ..a somewhat homophobic cultural structure..gays are there. .but not out in the open like in america..the carribbean is still yet very colonial backwards thinking..only a few islands openly accept gays..Puerto Rico has a very large gay community..gay owned beachfront 5 star hotels catering to gays exclusively…Saba is another island. St Barts is another, hollywood gays go there.. all of St Maarten, the French and the Dutch side caters to the pink dollar..parts of Dominican Republic also is in the picture now..gays are investing with Rum makers in D.R…the pink dollar is everywhere…I ain’t madd..let them do..but I am watching how gays are coming up as a community in a relatively short time becoming millionaires ..and we’re still running daily to Popeyes Chicken and Mickey D’s for meals to feed our children.

  2. gotta stop with the propaganda – gotta stop with the ‘homophobia’, because nobody is afraid of homosexuality … but a lot of people are sick of it because it’s not brand new, and certainly nothing to brag about … besides, how many wealthy heterosexuals are there … gotta stop acting like the whole world is gonna all of a sudden start pretending that homosexuality is better than oxygen … it’s not gonna happen … be who you are, live your life, bake your own cake for your pretend wedding and leave it alone … for those who don’t know it, there really is a God, and He is watching this homosexuality thing in particular, and soon He will send another sign of His disapproval …

  3. I get it….. Why don’t you? It IS brave of him or anyone to stand up & be who they are. It’s saving lives of children that can’t accept their sexuality. There have been gay millionaires!! They’re just out of the closet. GOD HAS JOINED THEM ALL TOGETHER. Those who speak for him will have shorter breath and fade…


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