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The Black Hat/Sisters, Why Do You Feel Under Attack and What Can Black Men Do to Help?



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*So I’ve been thinking …

When Mark Zuckerberg created Facebook, I wonder if he ever thought it would be used as a platform for black women to express how miserable and unappreciated they feel …

Who could’ve anticipated Twitter becoming a vehicle for sistas to flagrantly malign black men, while portraying themselves as victims of a widespread siege against their existence …

On July 1, 1981, I wonder if Amanda Seales’ parents knew they were giving birth to a little girl who would eventually become the undisputed Q-U-E-E-N and ringleader of the “I Hate Black Men Club” …

Just thinking aloud here …

Before I started writing this … (well let’s call it what it is) – a rant … I actually considered taking the high road. After reading dozens of comments and watching several videos of sisters accusing black men of being emotionally negligent, I for a quick second thought about issuing a written apology on behalf of brothers everywhere.

But F*CK THAT SH*T – I ain’t Derrick Jackson. It’s time for a reality check.

I’m not blind. And yet, mysteriously, I haven’t been able to identify the alleged forces of evil wreaking havoc on black women. Where are these forces lurking? Who are they? And more importantly, why are these fiendish entities targeting sistas and no one else?

It’s mind-boggling.

I say “forces” because there’s ZERO evidence to support any notion characterizing black women as victims of emotional or psychological abuse. These “forces” might as well be ghosts – because they’re invisible. They don’t exist. These “forces” should be mentioned with other mythological figures like Bigfoot and the Lockness Monster.

In fact, one could argue that black women have benefited from a measure of social privilege that black men could only dream of experiencing. But I’ll save that argument for another story.

So I wanna know: Who’s responsible for making black women feel so undervalued?

Is it the media’s fault? Donald Trump? White women? Planned Parenthood? Niggas? Who?!

Also, since I’m on the subject, what specific experiences do black women encounter that make their lives any harder than other women?


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I’ve been scratching my head, desperately trying to figure out WHAT sistas mean when they say: “black men don’t protect us,” and “we go through so much.”

Can somebody, anybody, tell me – PLEASE – what types of unique hardships do ya’ll grapple with on a day to day basis?

No wait, I got it, y’all hate when your white coworkers make ignorant comments about your skin, clothes and hair. Is that what’s got y’all mad?

Or maybe it’s the way you’re belittled and objectified by rappers – even though you stay dancing and singing to their music.

Perhaps it’s because you’re sick and tired of raising kids alone – even though the niggas you choose to have babies with are either locked up, drugged up, or just plain f*cked up morally.

What’s the root cause of your suffering, ladies? And if there are multiple causes, can one of you provide a comprehensive outline of WHAT THE F*CK THEY ARE? Cause I ain’t buying it!

However, for argument’s sake, I’ve decided to provide a list of ways that black men can “step up” and help. Here it goes:

1) Black men across the U.S. can take shifts hiding behind trees and bushes. When one of us suspects a black woman is being mistreated or disrespected in public, he can pop out of the bushes and intervene to “defend” her.

2) Black men everywhere can pay to have their balls removed. This procedure may cause us to be less masculine and more docile (bitchmade). Under these conditions, black women can take over as the leaders and decision-makers within our communities, while black men follow whatever instructions we’re given. That’s what sisters want anyway.

3) Black men can start taking sensitivity and women’s studies courses to develop a deeper sense of understanding and empathy for the emotional trauma that sisters allegedly experience. Fuck how we feel and what we go through – black men should ONLY be concerned about the welfare and psycho-emotional health of black queens.

4) Black men can store rose petals in their pockets and carrier bags so they can be thrown at the feet of all black women walking in public. This will give sisters more confidence and ensure they feel like royalty – even if their lives and decision making skills are pure trash.

5) Black men can take more of a traditional approach and (literally) slap some sense into y’all women. The impact of our cuffed hands on y’all’s faces may knock your equilibrium straight. Just a suggestion.

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The Black Hat is written by  Southern California based  Cory A. Haywood, a freelance writer and expert on Negro foolishness. Contact him via: [email protected] and/or visit his blog:, or send him a message on Twitter: @coryahaywood


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The Virtual United Negro College Fund Tour Heads to NY, DC & NJ on Fri & Sat-Nov. 20 & 21 (EUR EXCLUSIVE!)




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*African American students interested in going to college can attend the United Negro College Fund’s (UNCF) Fall 2020 virtual Empower Me Tour. Set for this Friday and Saturday (November 20 & 21, 2020), New York, District of Columbia, and New Jersey will be repped. (This year’s tour kicked off earlier this month in Wisconsin and Illinois). To register, go here.

The Empower Me Tour is an extension of the goals of the UNCF. Founded in 1944, the UNCF, a non-profit, has raised more than $5 billion and helped more than 500,000 students attend 37 private historically Black colleges and universities (HBCUs).

The EUR caught up with Stacey Lee, the tour’s director for four years, who discussed the importance of the event.

“The UNCF is the nation’s largest provider of education support to minority students,” said Lee. “The Empowerment Tour has been executed for the past 12 years and last year along we offered over $12 million dollars in scholarships.”

MORE NEWS/RELATED: BMEE Authors: Urgent Steps Are Necessary to Address Implicit Bias in Early Education  

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Stacey Lee, director of the Empower Me Tour. (Photo credit: UNCF)

Lee continued, “I think the great thing is that during these times, even with COVID-19, is that a number of corporations (Wells Fargo/P&/FedEx/Disney/Goldman Sachs) and donors have really been providing opportunity and financial access to our schools and students.”

The tour is packed with information and resources so that students and parents have the right tools to make informed decisions.

“It’s a free event that provides educational support, scholarships, interviews with colleges, empowerment, and information on how to get to and through college. We also provide this information for parents as well. We have a parent section that focuses on financial aid and the things you need to get your students to college.”

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Lee continued, “Sometimes we have students that don’t realize that they can attend college. They can receive scholarships. Some of them don’t even know what an HBCU is. So, it’s inspirational for me to see these students receive this information and the excitement that’s around this tour.”

In addition to college information, panel sessions on issues affecting the community will also take place. Legendary rapper Bun B will be part of a special My Black Is Beautiful panel. The panel will have discussions with girls and boys and the MC will lead the male portion.

“It’s about empowerment,” Bun B told the EUR. “It’s vital for us to lift each other up and amplify each other’s voices. We just talk about now what that role is in this COVID world. And with everything that we are seeing with young Black men on television, we want to keep them motivated and centered. We want to make sure that they are not discouraged in this moment.”

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Legendary rapper Bun B is a panelist at the Empower Me Tour. (Photo credit: UNCF)

Ever since Kamala Harris threw her hat into the presidential race and elected vice president of the United States, a spotlight has shined on the fact that she’s an HBCU grad (Howard University) and member of the African American sorority Alpha Kappa Alpha. These facts are not lost on the UNCF.

“Kamala has really boosted people’s awareness about HBCUs and (African American sororities) and the type of people that come out of HBCUs. HBCUS have also provided so many people from science, mathematics, and engineering programs (STEM).”

Bun B added, “We have more than enough examples to show you how beneficial an education from an HBCU can be. So, there is no reason to not be a part of an HBCU because the world is just as available to you as it is for anyone else attending any other type of university.”

Register for the virtual Empower Me Tour on November 20 & 21, 2020 here. Spring tour dates will be announced soon. For general information on the United Negro College Fund, go here.

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New Music Buzz: Jazzy Rita Shelby’s ‘Goodbye 2020’



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After all that’s happened this year, it’s time to say Goodbye 2020. New single available by Jazzy Rita Shelby at most digital platforms.

*SB Music presents “Goodbye 2020” a new single for the times we are in.

“Goodbye 2020” is performed by Jazzy Rita Shelby and written by Miss Shelby (ASCAP) and Eddie Lawrence Miller (BMI).

It’s the perfect anthem to end a year that has impacted the globe.

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Jazzy Rita Shelby is fed up with this year and elated about her new single “Goodbye 2020.” Avail now from SB Music (Written by L. Shelby & E. Miller)

EURweb’s Jazzy Rita is also a prolific lyricist who has teamed up with Eddie Miller for “Goodbye 2020” because it was timely and convenient for the birth of a song such as this.

Eddie Miller is a coveted keyboardist & vocalist who performs regularly with Brian Culbertson and he’s the Rhodes Festival musical director. Jazzy Rita rose to notoriety as host & performer at The Starlight Jazz Serenade, an annual benefit concert in North Hollywood with an A list of stars.  As a teen Miss Shelby was inspired to write songs by the legendary David Porter.

This year has been a year like no other.  “Goodbye 2020” is an ode to the world for the year that we have seen and the hope that lies ahead.  Radio Programmers click here for adds.

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“Goodbye 2020” is released on the SB Music label and was recorded at Wishing Wells Studio in Canoga Park, CA.  Willie Daniels and Mildred Black perform background vocals along with Jazzy Rita.  The video is produced & directed by Jazzy Rita (LaRita Shelby), filmed & edited by Reggie Simon of Simon Vision Media, with wardrobe styling by Jazzy Rita and Poet Roni Girl’s Army Couture.  “Goodbye 2020” is available on most digital platforms.  Click here to listen on Spotify.


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Celebrate Halloween with ‘Spell’ Starring Omari Hardwick, Loretta Devine and John Beasley / WATCH




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*Today/TONIGHT is Halloween and what could be a more perfect way to celebrate than with the release of SPELL? Enjoy the clips below to get you in the spooky spirit!

Omari Hardwick (“Power,” Sorry to Bother You), Loretta Devine (“Black-ish,” Crash) and John Beasley (The Sum of All FearsThe Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks) star in the terrifying thriller SPELL, coming to Premium Video-On-Demand and Digital today October 30 from Paramount Home Entertainment.

While flying to his father’s funeral in rural Appalachia, an intense storm causes Marquis (Omari Hardwick) to lose control of the plane carrying him and his family.  He awakens wounded, alone and trapped in Ms. Eloise’s (Loretta Devine) attic, who claims she can nurse him back to health with the Boogity, a Hoodoo figure she has made from his blood and skin. Unable to call for help, Marquis desperately tries to outwit and break free from her dark magic and save his family from a sinister ritual before the rise of the blood moon.

WHOA! READ THIS: Disabled Siblings Found Living with Dead Body of Mother Decomposing Under Pile of Clothes

DIRECTED BY | Mark Tonderai


STARRING | Omari Hardwick, Loretta Devine, John Beasley

AVAILABLE ON DIGITAL PLATFORMS | Apple TV, Amazon Prime Video, Google Play, DirecTV, VUDU, Xfinity, FandangoNOW and more.

Rating | R – violence, disturbing/bloody images, and language







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