*Ciara created a social media firestorm over the weekend when she suggested that single women should “level up” if they want to get married.
On Sunday (Jan 21), the singer shared footage of a sermon by Pastor John Gray, with the quote, “Too many women want to be married but you’re walking in the spirit of ‘girlfriend.’”
“#LevelUp. Don’t Settle,” she captioned the post, sharing the same clip and hashtag on Twitter.
Addressing his “single sisters,” Gray quotes the scripture saying, “‘He that finds a wife finds a good thing.’ It didn’t say, ‘He that finds a girl that he’s attracted to, who he then begins to date, who he then calls his girlfriend, who he then buys a ring, proposes to and makes her his fiancée, who he then marries later who becomes his wife.’”
“You’re not a wife when I marry you, you’re a wife when I find you,” Gray added, “But a wife is not the presence of a ring, it’s the presence of your character.”
Welp, Ciara’s co-sign of this message on social media did not go well.
“Ciara’s playing a dangerous game,” one tweeted. “You should never, no matter how perfect your relationship/marriage appears to be, sit on a throne and tell people why they’re not romantically successful. You can be the queen of the ball today and have cake in your face tomorrow!”
Others pointed out that before marrying the Seattle Seahawks player in 2016, Ciara had her own issues with rapper Future, reportedly splitting with her fiancé amid rumors of cheating.
“Ciara telling women to ‘Level up’ and live ‘like a wife’ so they can b married is astounding to me,” another tweeted. “Didn’t you need grace, mercy & compassion when you were being dragged up and down the Internet for the Future situation? How quickly ppl forget when they reach a perch of privilege.”
Others defended Ciara, with one writing, “Y’all wanted to know how Ciara snatched a Russell Wilson, and she told y’all but now y’all mad. LMAO.”
Another wrote, “Ciara’s GROWTH has nothing to do with her denying her past …. Y’all heffas get mad at fellow women for trying to encourage you to do BETTER because you deserve better but you’re also upset when men degrade you. Y’all Just gotta play victim because Hoe is Life.”
Ciara responded to the backlash, posting the following message on Instagram Sunday:
“I was one that girl wanting to be loved a certain way bit was making the wrong choices. I found myself at my lowest moment. I was a single mom sitting at home, and then I realized that the perfect love I was looking for was how God loves me, how He wants me to be loved, and who He was calling me to be as a mom and a woman. That’s when I realized married of not married… I needed to love myself. #LevelUp”
The day before she posted the John Gray clip, Ciara shared footage of her slaying Michael Jackson’s signature moves during rehearsal for a “Vh1 Divas” performance.
She captioned the video: “Rp Vibes From @JamaicaCraft. @Roography on Tribute Piece. Rehearsals for Vh1 Divas. Opening Tribute To MJ. #Friday.”