Sunday, October 17, 2021

Professor Advises Black Women to Give Up on Black Men

ralph richard banks (& sister sandy)
Ralph Richard Banks (and his sister, Sandy)

*And yes, he did say it with a straight face.

Stanford University professor Ralph Richard Banks has written a book called “Is Marriage for white People? How the African American Marriage Decline Affects Everyone.”

In a video promoting the book, Banks says “It’s time for black women to give up the good fight on marrying a black man.”

The author says black women have been carrying the burden of many of the black man’s struggles, and this is something that they should break free from.

You can imagine all the hell this raised.

In the video Banks says women think they are attracted to black men; and admits they are, but then talks about how “complicated” the attraction is.

“One of the things that I discovered in the course of writing this book is that there is a whole host of fears and desires and anxieties that animate the black woman’s attraction to black men,” Banks claims.

What, you ask, does that mean?

Your guess is as good as mine. But in an article Banks wrote for the Wall Street Journal he does mention that 70% of black women are married, but are they married to black men, is the question.

Read more and watch two interesting videos at EURThisNthat



  1. Professor Banks’ wife married an educated Black man. Is he saying that he is the last eligible Black man? Is the professor implying that all the educated Black men are extinct and the Black woman is now FORCED to select another race? Is he saying that only people outside of the Black race are educated? Has he given up on Black man? As a professor, I am hoping that is not what he is implying.

    I married an educated man and he is Black, so am I one of the 70% or not? Perhaps I am missing the point when he says, “…black women have been carrying the burden of many of the black man’s struggles, and this is something that they should break free from.” What am I missing here?!? Every race has strife only the Black man’s is harder and as a Black woman, I can comprehend.

    There is no way in the world I would have given up on Black men! …without “fear” and/or “anxiety.”

    • Thanks for weighing in Keeba. Certainly sounds like the author has left you with more questions than answers. Hopefully many of your points are addressed in his book.

    • Apparently, some of you spend too much time believing the hype that yt men are productive breadwinners. There are a lot of non-productive, entitled fools of that race and every other race,for that matter. Too bad we spend too much time in believing everything the media is telling us or using a couple of bad experiences to stereotype a group of men.


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