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Dear Advice Chick,
*I am writing this as more of a confessional than a question, but if I touch something in your heart, please share with the world. A good man is considered someone who is emotionally supportive, financially supportive, and physically supportive. So if a man steps out with another woman does it mean he has lower feelings for his significant other than said? Does it mean all they have shared, experienced, laughed about, cried about mean nothing? Does one act of indiscretion erase years of faithfulness? Does it erase the fact that he still pays all the bills, still romances his woman every chance he gets, still picks up the kids and takes the kids out so the mother can have some alone time (even when the kids are not his). Is a good man capable of falling by the wayside, and still being considered a good man? Is the love they share not strong enough for both to realize that love and sex are not intertwined but two separate entities that so many of us get confused?
If a man steps out before marriage, and then once marriage has commenced stays faithful for life, does that one indiscretion not make him a good man? Or is a good man one you can count on in times of need and times of want. He will make a way out of no way and even sacrifice his own happiness so the woman and kids can be happy. Can a good man not stumble? Women put so much emphasis on faithfulness and how doggish a man can be, but what about the good ones who don't ruin there family lives for a skeezer on the street? What about the good ones who cry with their women, pray to God for their women’s happiness, and will lay down his life to protect hers. Does that one indiscretion make him no less a good man? Physical bonds have not hold if there are no spiritual, emotional, and mental bonds. Is a piece of ass worth a great relationship? HELL NO. But is it a great relationship if that storm cannot be weathered?
I have read your column over the past year, and your advice is stern, yet sound and realistic. So please help me, I am confused not by what is done, but by what the consequences are........Yours truly, A stumbling (good) man.
Advice Chick replies,
I ain’t buying it. You already know you’re stumbling, so it’s your charge to do everything you can not to fall, and not to fail your current relationship. A piece of ass is not worth sacrificing your good thing at home. The consequences are real. You can lose everything. It’s not just women who place so much emphasis on faithfulness, God also commands us to be faithful to our spouse. You heard that? We’re to be faithful to our spouse – not our baby daddy, baby momma, sugar daddy, or sugar dumpling. I realize many of us live with our mates, and those of us who do are living in sin. Sex is supposed to be enjoyed with your husband, or wife.
Who’s to say that the hoochie you’re thinking about hitt’in doesn’t have a disease? She can have the big one, AIDS, or one of hundreds of other S.T.D’s. Condoms are not 100%, bruh. Relationships are ridden with trials and tribulations. Many of which are unforeseen, and/or unexpected. Your pee pee throbbing for another woman doesn’t qualify for either. You raised some valid issues, but they hold no water. Do not step out on your girl, and don’t let her remain your girl too long. Make her your wife, and keep the vows you make before friends, family, and God. Be strong - I’ve got faith in you.
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